Prewriting Charts[10 points for each row completed—30 points total]
Choosing to live with my mother over my father taught me to be a stronger woman.
Effect #1:
Vivid Description/Details about Effect #1
[remember to “show” and not tell]
Reflection
Share your honest feelings about how this affected your life
Working Topic Sentence for BP #1 [transition + affect + connection to thesis]:
Before my parents had gotten divorced, our family and living situations were going downhill.
PROFESSORS NOTES:
Write about how it made you:
1. Independent
2. Maturity
3. Stood up for yourself..etc.
– We were struggling financially
– There was a lot of emotional and physical abuse
– Finding out my father was having an ongoing affair behind us
– My mom being diagnosed with depression while raising six
– kids on her own.
FIND EXAMPLES AND DETAILS:
EX. Show examples of how your mom showed independence to match with 1.
Do the same with 2., 3, and so fourth
– Resulted in us having to go through bankruptcy twice.
– The abuse was getting out of hand to the point where me (a small child) and my siblings would step in and call the authorities.
– The day we found out my father was having an affair was the day my mom kicked him out and tried to file for divorce
– My mom started to get off the anti-depressants and started to feel more like herself again.
REFLECT!!!
With the examples REFLECT on how the actions made me independent, mature, etc…
Effect #2:
Vivid Description/Details about Effect #2
[remember to “show” and not tell]
Reflection
Share your honest feelings about how this affected your life
Working Topic Sentence for BP #1 [transition + affect + connection to thesis]:
After the divorce, our family started to grow and progress together to where we made the dreadful memories seem small and non-existent.
– We moved into another house to get away from the bad memories
– My older siblings and my mother had gotten new jobs to support our bills
– Me and my brother were the only ones who still tried to keep in contact with my dad and see him once a month.
– We found out my dad was getting engaged to the woman he was seeing
– We ended up moving out from our old and small apartment to a nice and spacious condo home a couple blocks down.
– We made the decision to sell my grandmas house in Mexico to help us start off with money
– We grew financially, we were able to go out more, travel more, and afford things we couldn’t before.
– My brother and I felt in our hearts to still keep a healthy relationship with our dad and start over. He would visit us monthly but only for a limited time, which we were grateful for.
– Although my mom went through so much with my dad, she kept her peace with him but also kept her distance.
– We officially met my dad’s fiancé and automatically got along right away. We got rid of this mindset thinking she was the reason of our divorce, and that it was her fault, and that we were never going to get along.
Effect #3:
Vivid Description/Details about Effect #3
[remember to “show” and not tell]
Reflection
Share your honest feelings about how this affected your life
Working Topic Sentence for BP #1 [transition + affect + connection to thesis]:
In the end, we concludedthat it had to end up this way to not only to help my mother and our family grow and be content, but also with my father.
– We moved houses again with cheaper and affordable housing
– My siblings moved out to focus on their families and careers
– I got my first job and bought my first car
– My dad got married to my step mom
– My dad rarely visits us now
– As 8 years went by since the divorce, my siblings grew up and finally moved out to focus on their careers and families while me and my mom live in a smaller and affordable house for the both of us to maintain.
– I had gotten my first job, paid for my first car, and now I’m finally going back to school to better myself and to also help out with bills.
– Since I turned 18, my father stopped paying for my child support which resulted in him hardly ever visiting me (maybe once every 4-5months rather than monthly) which made me think he was just forced to visit me only for the child support but id like not have that type of mindset.
– Till this day me and my dad hardly talk anymore but I’m still willing to keep our relationship going.
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